Sunday, April 15, 2012

Review and Giveaway for "Because You Care"


by Cecil Murphey
and Twila Belk

I saw this book on a friend's FB page. "Because You Care: Spiritual Encouragement for Caregivers" and wanted to find out more about it. I've been a caregiver all my life and I can use all the encouragement I can get. My mother had Rheumatoid Arthritis and I helped care for her as a child. I still take care of my adult disabled daughter as well as my dad for the ten years before he passed away. I think I have pretty good creditials as a caregiver.

 I wanted to know how the authors faced their life as caregivers. Twila Belk and Cec Murphey are the co-authors for this book. Both of these authors are prolific writers and speakers. How do they do it. How do they manage to keep thier own sanity and also have a productive life of thier own?  I hope to have an interview with Twila to add to this post. I'm sure she has a lot to add for other caregivers who are also trying to be writers.

This is a little book, but it packs a whollop. Stories of trials and faith from both Twila and Cec. There are beautiful and tranquil photographs by Betty Fletcher. This book would make a great gift to someone who has the job of being a caregiver to someone they love. It is also nice just to buy for yourself if you are the caregiver and need a little boost.

BACK COVER: As someone caring for an ill or elderly loved one, you understand that your role can push you to the limit, press on every nerve, and yet fill you with a deep sense of love and peace of mind.

Beloved authors Cecil Murphy and Twila Belk know this, too. Beautifully written and full of gentle wisdom, their personal stories of caregiving will help you face some of the ups and downs of your journey.

                                               Feeling guilty for doing too much, or nothing at all.
                                               Answering others well-meaning but insensitive questions.
                                               Watching someone you dearly love suffer or die.

Here the stories from those living the life. Let their encouraging words lift your heart.

From Cec and Twila
(excerpt from first page)
Others may call you brave. They'll use words like noble or sacrificial. They'll admire and applaud you because you've offered your life to make yourself available to someone who needs a long-term caregiver.
"I couldn't do what you're doing for him," a friend says.
You listen to the words your friend speaks, and you like hearing the compiments. Yet as you listen and smile, you don't see yourself as exceptional. You're doing the right thing for someone you love, and that gives you peace. You also know the reason you've devoted your energies to another person.
You can express that reason in a single sentence: "I do it because I care." You might say it's because you love the person, or you may do it because of a strong sense of commitment to God and to your loved one. egardless of how you express yourself, you're determinded to give yourself as fully as you can.
Some days you may not feel like loving anyone. You get tired, lose your temper, or think of the things you didn't accomplish. During the worst times, you wish the situation would change. And in those dark moments, you've probably prayed, Dear Lord, please take this burden from me.
The situation probably won't change for a long time - perhaps years. It's not the kind of life you would have imagined. You probably  envisioned living out your years in blissful peace. Caring for your loved one wasn't part of your dream, but this is the life you have. Despite the moments of sadness, perhaps even regret, your answer remains the same: "I care."
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4. The giveaway ends April  30, 2012.


  1. I am a GFC follower

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  2. I am no longer working due to disability but I have been an RN since 1974.

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  3. Deborah, thanks for your kind review of Because You Care. I look forward to our interview.

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  5. This is from Sharon/Faith Hope Cherrytea:
    i'm a caregiver for 2 family members as well as having RA myself, so the encouragement you've shared re the content of this book sounds like a real blessing ! TY for offering it :)


  6. I'm a caregiver for my husband. Our son and daughter-in-law live with us as well and she has Celebral Palsy. Thank you for offering your book in a giveaway.


  7. I am a follower of Butterfly Journey. My daughter's mother-in-law is struggling with her caregiving. Her mother is 95, excellent mind, but so very frail, prone to fall, etc. It is a sad situation for the whole family. They are a dear Christian family, very close.Someone has to stay with Grandma around the clock. Thanks to Cec and Twila for writing this book to help others.I am on the e-mail list for your blog. If I win it I will pass it on to the caregiver I told you about.

  8. I find this book very interesting. I am coming from the opposite side of the coin as one who only recently has had to be "cared for" due to a recent surgery that has gone awry and I now find myself needing help to do even the simplest things, like putting on my socks and shoes or cooking for my family. By all accounts I will probably end up in wheelchair and while this might free me up to get outside the house, I still won't be able to put on my shoes or stand at the stove to make dinner.

    I often feel guilty for asking for help as I know my family are getting tired of meeting my needs. It's a full-time job, with little or no reward. As an author and a speaker I need their help more than ever, to get me from point A to point B. I hope this book will bring some comfort to them and help me understand how I can help them to adjust to caring for me. I will sign up for your email alerts and follow you. God Bless!

  9. This book sounds so good. My parents live with my sister and she has legal guardianship of 4 of her granchildren. I would love to be able to give her this book.

  10. This sounds like a great book and I applaud you for sharing something so important. Don't enter me, though. I came by to let you know I tagged you on my blog post today.

  11. Hey Deborah, I'd love to win this book for a friend of mine who is taking care of her mother. Sounds like something she would enjoy :)